Psychiatrists and Spaghetti Sauce

There are things that you just don’t want someone to say to you.

While on my Psychiatry rotation, we had two weeks of various outpatient clinics. Now, in my opinion, psychiatrists are some of the most fun doctors out there. They tend to have some of the best senses of humor and they’re always having a great time.

However, my two most awkward moments in medical school did come on behalf of the psychiatry department (and yes, I promise the next story will follow).

So here I was, sitting in addiction clinic. We had a patient end up cancelling, and that meant we had about 45 minutes to chat. We had been talking about a number of issues normally- his new son, my research, the psychiatry curriculum in medical school- and then things took a turn for the worst.

Doctor: So, why aren’t you engaged?

Me (shocked and then attempting to be tactful): Well, I’m single, so that makes it a bit hard to be engaged.

Doctor (in an understanding, reassuring tone): It’s okay, I’m sure you’ll be married by the time you’re 40. And you still should be pretty by then, too.

He then moved on to some other topic, having no idea how insulting that was.

I saw this doctor last week at a conference and he pulled me aside to tell me how I have a brilliant mind. And no, I still haven’t forgiven him.

Get a Husband Tomato Sauce

maybe I should have started making this a while ago…


  • 3 lbs roma tomatoes, quartered
  • Olive oil
  • Salt
  • Pepper
  • 1 large onion, diced
  • 4 tbsp minced garlic
  • 1/2 c red wine
  • 6 oz can tomato paste
  • 2 tbsp dried basil
  • 2 tbsp dried oregano
  • 3 tbsp sugar
  • Garlic salt


  1. Preheat oven to 325 degrees. Place tomatoes in a roasting pan and drizzle with olive oil. Sprinkle with salt and pepper. Roast for 1.5 hours, checking about every 20-30 minutes to make sure they aren’t burning.
  2. Place tomatoes in a food processor or blender and pulse until it reaches your desired consistency.
  3. In a large pot, saute onion in 3 tbsp olive oil over medium heat until it just starts to become translucent. Add in garlic and saute for an additional minute.
  4. Add in tomatoes, red wine, tomato paste, basil, oregano, and sugar. Simmer over medium-low heat for 30-40 minutes while flavors blend. Your home will smell amazing and neighbors might come knocking at your door.
  5. Use garlic salt and pepper to taste.

P.S. My apologies for being gone so long! It’s a bit difficult to post without the internet or a kitchen!

61 thoughts on “Psychiatrists and Spaghetti Sauce

  1. Love reading your posts. Always a good laugh … and lovely recipes!

  2. Thank you for this. I planted 8 tomato plants in my garden this year, and…they’re doing perhaps *too* well. I’ve been looking for tomato sauce recipes to use them up once they start ripening.

  3. Nice to see you back… I figured you must be burning the midnight oil at your new post.

  4. Ahhhhhhh I can totally relate to this. The tomato sauce looks AMAZING, too!

  5. It is crazy how wildly inappropriate “professionals” can be. I always wonder in those situations whether the person goes home that day and thinks to himself, “self, you really were nice to that girl today…probably really helped her to put things into prospective.” What a d bag.

  6. I would have punched him in the face..but than again maybe that’s why I’m still single ๐Ÿ™‚

  7. Omg. I cannot even begin to express how indignant I felt reading this! How rude!

    Someone should take his degree away. Really. Sometimes I think that people in the mental helath profession should be visited by patient equivalents of secret shoppers. I think that care would go up and the number of psychiatric professionals would go down.

  8. Love it! And how rude of him

  9. And love the sauce ๐Ÿ˜‰

    1. Well in general I have only ever had bad luck twice- the majority of them are pretty cool. GI docs, on the other hand…had bad luck with those.

      1. Let’s hope that it stays just twice!

  10. Having worked with psychiatrists for 45 years in various roles, I feel your pain! I wonder if he was married, and if so, who the masochist who married him was.

    Best wishes,


  11. My in-laws are psychiatrists! They are funny, but thankfully not rude ๐Ÿ™‚

  12. Be glad your head is being examined by him!

  13. This made me laugh out loud, my goodness some people don’t ever know when to keep their mouth shut.

  14. The things that come out of some people’s mouths, it makes me wonder some times! For me it’s always been (whether I’m single or not) so why don’t you have any babies yet? Uggghh…. thanks for this recipe, it looks delicious! Can’t go wrong with a basic tomato sauce ๐Ÿ˜‰

  15. Wow that sounds so awesome I will have to try it. I have never made home made sauce. Can’t wait to try it.

  16. Funny story and a tasty looking sauce!

  17. LOL that is funny. I am a therapist and work with many psychiatrists. You are right about them being funny but also sometimes strange/funny if you know what I mean. Thanks for posting!

  18. Hilarious! If only people could hear themselves.

  19. Tactful, he is not!
    But this sauce looks seriously delicious! Making it!

  20. Ha, what a jerk! Who asks that?

  21. Love your recipe and your story ๐Ÿ™‚

  22. Your story reminds me of experiences as a young female officer in the military! The best revenge is to live well……

  23. Reblogged this on anadalooa and commented:
    Do you have a sauce for Multiple Personalities? ๐Ÿ˜‰

  24. I’m super excited to try this sauce out. As for your psychiatrist “friend”…how rude! I’d retaliate with a “If you’re taken then there’s hope for all of us”. ๐Ÿ˜›

  25. Haha love your blog and welcome back!! Been meaning to make my own sauce this way for ages, not baked the toms before so will be getting on that next week! Keep em coming!

  26. Psychiatrists are a bred of themselves *smile – great and funny post as always. You do your pasta sauce exactly like I do and it’s a great sauce.

  27. what an idiot – but what a great recipe!

  28. I’ve been catching up on Mad Men lately… I think this guy jumped out of the script. What an ass.

  29. Are you leaving the skins on the tomatoes or do they come off before the food processor? Thanks….

    1. I left the skins on- it adds a bit of texture that I like.

  30. I’ll have to try this myself.

  31. I would’ve punched that doctor.

  32. The nerve of the guy! But love the recipe!

  33. OMG don’t you just love being a single woman in the world of working professionals? ha ha. Okay, piece of advice as a psychiatrist…stay away from prescribing the benzodiazepines.

  34. Wow, garlic AND garlic salt. What a great idea. Will definitely give that a go!

  35. woah! I would’ve thought someone in that job would have more sensitivity and tact! At least basic social etiquette?
    I’ve been yelled at in the street “good head shame about the body” and my friend has had the opposite. We were both wondering if we should be happy about the head or sad about the body and vice versa.

  36. Agreed – he should have more basic decency. Maybe he thought he was being funny. Here’s a book for you to find in the library:)

  37. Most men just don’t think before they speak!

  38. Great post. Very funny and great sauce recipe I will definitely try it out.

    OH! By the way, I have also nominated you for The Lovely Blog Award … because I think your blog is great. You make me laugh and that’s always lovely. Just visit my blog to pick up your award and check out the simple rules. Congrats!

  39. In my opinion, people are just crazy. Psychiatrists fall under the “people” category, so there you are.

  40. Great looking sauce!

    Wow, what a social nit-wit. Probably an overweight, heavy breather with stray hairs out of his ears and nose. Ewwwww.

    1. Surprisingly not the case…and I will admit that the pictures I saw of his young son were adorable.

  41. Open mouth insert foot…….Rise above,rise above. You don’t have to live with him after all.

  42. Who needs a husband? Your a doctor, get a boy toy. lol

    1. That is a surprisingly hard task, actually…

  43. I know it’s rude and you were insulted, but this made me laugh so much!! ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. Ehhh I’m laughing with you now ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Hi there. Oh your tomatoe sause recipe sounds and looks very delicious and i cannot wait till our tomatoes get ripe soon. I think the man was so rude some people don’t have a clue. Sometimes people get off on making others feel bad especially if you are doing well. Don’t take it too heart. I immediately release when confronted by idiot conversation, and i continue to feel so good. LOL. take care. Betty

  45. I read somewhere the other day that there is some advice out there given to men that if they like a girl to insult them first to make them insecure. And then that will make the girl want them to give them positive attention.
    Unfortunately sounds like this goose listened to this ridiculous advice.

  46. There sure is a lot of Stupid Human Interpersonal Talk out there, no? Between men and women, parents and childless, left and right. OY! But a good dish of food goes a long way toward making it all better, in my book. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Well done!

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